The world we live in is the world we choose to live in, whether consciously or unconsciously. The path to success consists of knowing your outcome, taking action, knowing what results you’re getting, and having the flexibility to change until you’re successful. The same is true of beliefs. You have to find the beliefs that support your outcomes - the beliefs that get you where you want to go.
People are sometimes put off when I talk about the “lies” of success. Who wants to live by lies? But all I mean is that we don’t know how the world really is. The word “lies” is used as a consistent reminder that we do not know for certain exactly how things are. The word “lie” does not mean “to be deceitful or dishonest” but, rather, is a useful way to remind us that no matter how much we believe in a concept, we should be open to other possibilities and continuous learning.
Everything happens for a reason and a purpose, and it serves us.
I guarantee you that people who produce outstanding results think this way. No matter how much negative feedback they get from their environment, they think in terms of possibilities. They believe that every adversity contains the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.
There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.
I’ve used the words “outcome” and “results” throughout because that’s what successful people see. The don’t see failure. The don’t believe in it. It doesn’t computer. The super successes of our culture aren’t people who do not fail, but simply people who know that if they try something and it doesn’t give them what they want. they’ve had a learning experience.
Belief #3: Whatever happens, take responsibility.
Another attribute great leaders and achievers have in common is that they operate from the belief that they create their world. The phrase you’ll hear time and again is, “I am responsible, I’ll take care of it.” Taking responsibility is in my opinion one of the best measures of a person’s power and maturity. Those who take responsibility are in power. Those who avoid it are dis-empowered.
Belief #4: It’s not necessary to understand everything to be able to use everything.
Achievers invariable manage to be time misers. Successful people are especially good at making distinctions between what is necessary for them to understand and what is not. You can spend all your time studying roots, or you can learn to pick the fruit.
Belief #5: People are your greatest resource.
Individuals of excellence — that is, people who produce outstanding results — almost universally have a tremendous sense of respect and appreciation for people. They have a sense of team, a sense of common purpose and unity.
Belief #6: Work is play.
Pablo Picasso once said, “When I work, I relax; doing nothing or entertaining visitors makes me tired.”
Belief #7: There’s no abiding success without commitment.
Individuals who succeed have a belief in the power of commitment. If there’s a single belief that seems almost inseparable from success, it’s that there’s not great success without great commitment. The great Russian ballerina Anna Pavlova once said, “To follow without halt, one aim: there’s the secret of success.”
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